Previously I blogged about how to be a good listener so that you can understand your partner’s side of a problem. Here I write about the flipside: how to express yourself in such a way that your partner is more likely to understand you.

I’ve blogged about how to get curious, not furious about your partner’s point of view to stop an argument and improve your relationship. The questions that I suggested were entirely internal though - something you only think about in your own head. Below I provide questions that you can ask your partner in order to understand their point of view.